Excerpts from: "Talking to Teachers", by Marge Kennedy

Better Homes & Gardens

November, 1995

Preparing for parent-teacher conferences is vital to make the most of your 15 minutes with the teacher. It is suggested that parents "Keep an open mind...Parents look at their children with different eyes. That’s the way it should be. Teachers, on the other hand, are more objective, less partial. While we certainly see each child as an individual, we also have the benefit of seeing many kids of the same age everyday. That gives us a basis of seeing where one particular child is in relationship to other children."

Coming with a positive attitude is a good start. Here are some things you need to be aware of:

What is your child’s honest self-evaluation of their work?

What are the teacher’s expectations, and ask if your child is meeting them.

What criteria does the teacher use to grade?

What does the teacher think your role should be?

If needed, where can you get additional help for your child?

What is the protocol if you need to speak to another school official?

What insights can you share about your child with the teacher that might help the teacher know your child better?

Be aware of phrasing and body language. Find ways to be cooperative rather than confrontational.

Attend the conference with the child’s other parent.

Share the contents of the conference with your child in positive phrasing.

Parent-Teacher conferences are not the only time to talk to the teacher. Visit with teachers and administrators regularly, make sure your child does his/her work, and volunteer when you can. Make the conference a "well-child check-up instead of an emergency room visit."